High Gear Training Systems

High Gear: 410-366-7100

Ever Thought of Transforming Your Mind?

Many of my friends and associates are anxious about their future. They worry about being able to afford a better house, being able to send kids to college, retirement or getting Alzheimer's. What a strain. I would like to suggest a few  perspectives on how to  deal more effectively with fear and uncertainty in your life.

Number One:   If you happen to be a spiritual person you may remember reading this passage from the book of Matthew in the New Testament:  "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?" (Matthew 6:25-27 New International Version)

Personally, I find this verse very comforting.  I realize that referring to scripture may turn a few people off.  Sorry about that. You either believe or you don't.  St. Paul also makes a point when he tells us that "we must not conform ourselves to this age, but be transformed by the renewal of our minds."   (Romans 12:2)  Maybe it's time to really sit down and contemplate / study scripture.   I like St. Paul as he was a truly a wild man who had a ton of adventures.

Number Two:   Stop worrying about missing out.   I went through a period where I thought I needed a bigger better house.  Why?  It seemed like every time I'd go to a cookout or a party over at a friend house I would feel this way.  It's OK to have ambition but only for the right reasons.

Number Three:   How would your friends privately describe your attitude and your energy?  What does your self-talk sound like during the day? How would you describe your outlook on life?  I'd like to suggest two quotes for you to wrap your head around.  The first is from the Irish playwright, George Bernard Shaw:

"I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live."

The second is from former South Carolina Senator, Fritz Hollings:

"I don't want to rust out, I'd rather wear out."

It would seem these two  guys didn't think much about their retirement plans.

Finally, I'd like to share with  you a mantra that I created to help me "renew my mind" and have a better attitude as I go about my work:

I Know What to Do!

My Priorities are Clear!

I Embrace Discipline!

A Relentless Focus on Prospecting!

Consistent Marketing - I Always Ask for Referrals!

I Execute Consistent Follow Through!

I Have Brutal Accountability and I Have No Excuses!

I Get the Job Done!

I Am Focused Like a Laser Beam!

If you want a copy of this mantra just drop me a note and I'll send it to you.  Thanks for reading this.  I hope I have given you a few things to think about doing differently  in your life.


  1. Mary Myers says:

    I liked your article - I used to be a worry wart around age 8. I still remember what my dad told me a process used by William Carrier in Dale Carneige's book to do: Ask "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?"; Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary. ; Then calmly try to improve upon the worst.

    I heard a speaker once that helped me one question to ask yourself before you think you do anything - "Will this make a Better ME?" When you do things that always makes you better - you ARE better. It works for so many things that can bring you down quickly. It keeps me focused, healthy and happy moment by moment.

    Hope I've helped you do things differently in your life too.


  2. John D. says:

    Hi Mary,

    Thank you very much for your comments. I read that Dale Carnegie book when I left IBM and went out my own. I believe it's called, HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING. I found that book quite inspirational.

    I like that question: Will this make me a better me. I actually sent it to a friend. It really does help "frame" your life situations with a great perspective. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Craig says:

    Another inspirational blog. Thanks for sharing, not just on a professional level, but also on such a deep personal level. It helps remind me that we are all "people" first, professional second (even in a business relationship).
    This blog reminded me of an old Chief on mine back when I was a small pollywog in the Navy. When he met me he said, “BENNER! When I see you at the end of every day, I’m just going to ask you two questions, Just TWO! What did you do for MY Navy today? And, what did you do for yourself today?” He inspired me to remain professional, effective, and continually improve myself.
    Thanks again for your comments.

  4. Mark Rohde, Sr. says:


    Enjoyed your blog as always. As someone who has benefited from being around the Jesuits for many years, both as a student and as a business person, the Jesuit mantra of "Men and women for others" quickly comes to mind. I find that I am much more of a leader and a much better me when my focus is making others better and more successful. All of us must continually deal with and manage the paradoxical challenge that in order to be a "man and women for others" we must be continually, constantly and consistently aware of our selves. It is only though that supreme selfawareness, and the ingenuity, love, and heroism that it enables, that we can put ourselves out there for others.

    Good stuff John. Thanks for getting my Sunday off to such a selfaware start!

    Play Like a Champion Every Day!


Leave a Reply

(will not be published)

Suggested Readings

These are books we recommend highly. Most are also available on CD, so if you prefer, turn your car into a rolling university.